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+ Why do GUYS cheat so much Dear Molly . . . Thanks for writing and I'm sorry you're in so much pain right now. But you've got a couple things wrong here. 1. Guys actually DON'T cheat much more than women do. Now coming from a women, this might be hard to digest, but just hear me out. Stats actually show that guy's cheat in relationships maybe 5% more often than women do and that (as women have gained financial and social independence) women have started cheating in their relationships a lot MORE than they used to. (It takes two to tango, so it always struck me as odd that guys supposedly cheated "all the time" while women NEVER did. Who were these guys cheating with? Each other?) That said . . . 2. Women tend to cheat for different REASONS than men do . . . I'm talking in generalities here, but women tend to cheat . . . A. Because they don't feel emotionally connected to their man. B. Because they feel ignored by their man. C. To raise their self esteem (I just wanted to be desired). D. Because they aren't happy in the relationship. E. Because they've fallen out of love with their man and really want out of the relationship. While guys tend to cheat . . . A. Because they're horny and a woman they found attractive was either available or came on to them. (Oh, and of course some guys are serial cheaters) B. (There is no B.)
3. Women tend to JUSTIFY their cheating in ways guys don't In all the years, I've NEVER heard from a guy who said his wife or girlfriend DESERVED to be cheated on but I've gotten quite a few emails from women who said "I cheated on him because he's a son of a bitch." Or something to that effect. And finally . . . 4. Women are BETTER at cheating than guys are. Plain and simple, women are better at keeping an affair secret and "cleaning up the evidence" than guys are. Women are crafty and pay attention to details. Men are blunt instruments who can't even put the toilet seat down. So while a woman will put her lover's name in her phone as "Fiona" so her hubby doesn't catch on and keep a death grip on her phone . . . A guy will be dumb enough to leave his phone full of stuff sitting on the kitchen table. I'm not sure being "better" at cheating is all that great but it does lead to a lot more guys getting caught and skews perception so society THINKS guys cheat a lot more than women do. Oh not forgetting that the vast majority of cheaters never get found out. Stats show that about 50% of men AND women report some level of infidelity during their marriage and for most of them it's a short term thing that fades away into memory I'm still not actually sure, but personally I think ladies - You need to act like a lady, but think like a man in order to understand them. Guys we know sometimes even you don't know why you cheat on the people you love... Pauline Sangham + What was your best Radio moments? Interviews with famous people like Rod Stewart, Michael Bolton, Eddy Grant, + Your best moments in life was when? My best experiences were really when I travel. I think it opens you to think in a more arbitrary way and definitely a great teacher than any textbook or lecture. + What is your greatest passion in life? Firstly It would have to be helping other, even if it is age old advice and secondly I have a passion for music and dance. I love all types of music and enjoy all types of dance styles. + Which actor or actress would you select to play you in a movie of your life? To play my life..Its been an absolutely challenging one. So it would be Bipasha Basu or Priyanka Chopra from Bollywood, from Hollywood would have to be Halle Berry or Jennifer Lopez or salma Hayak. I think they can pull my character off really well. + What is your most embarrassing moment on air? There've been many! I would say having a conversation on the telephone with a listener off air whilst the microphone was on. Also interviewing a preacher on my gospel show and guess what? Did not realize we were off air due to a technical problem and I had to tell him to repeat the entire message. He was not impressed and so I was off that show. Oops! Its human to err! That’s the best thing about being human + What dont people know about Pauline, that you wish they knew? I love reading magazines and some books from back to front. I would love to get into politics and fight for women's rights - for Justice and not for equality... And no it is not the same thing. + What's the dark Side of Pauline like? Omg! Should I be revealing this information...On the dark side.... "a witch on broom stick."... I wish I was sometimes. People tend to take me for granted only because I could be Blindly optimistic and careless at time a bit Irresponsible and + 3 words that describes Pauline Talkative, Energetic, Spontaneous Ask a question
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